Parenting is not easy. We spend the baby years trying to keep them out of trouble. We spend their middle years teaching them to stay out of trouble and we spend their teenage years praying they will stay out of trouble.
In the development of children we move them from dependence to partnership to autonomy.
The goal of parenting and raising children is raising responsible self-sustaining adults. I joke with my wife all the time that I’m trying to get my children off of my payroll. If I can get them off my payroll, then that means they’re responsible adults. One of the keys to all of this is teaching your children how to make good decisions.
We teach our children to make good decisions by emphasizing two important factors:
- Obedience brings blessings.
- Disobedience bring curses.
When you make a good decision there are usually positive outcomes that come with it. When you make a bad decision there are usually consequences that come with it. I don’t want to oversimplify this, but this pretty much sums it up. The Bible reminds us of this in Deuteronomy 28.
In teaching children to make good decisions there are three we can’t afford to mess up:
- Who will they serve? Their eternity.
- Who will they marry? Their mate.
- What they will do? Their calling.
I’m convinced if we can teach and coach our children on how to get these decisions right, then most of the other decisions in their lives will work out.