The Most Important Book on Relationships You Will EVER Read

bait of satanNow that I trust I’ve gotten your attention… ahem: 

The Bait of Satan is the most important book on relationships that you will EVER read.

I’m serious.

Don’t let the title fool you – the book is not about the devil (primarily).

This book is about how to live free from the deadly trap of offense, one of the greatest stumbling blocks to lifelong, lasting, healthy and fulfilling friendships.

The lessons you will learn from this book will not only help you to have the best relationships you have ever had in your life, but they will also help you to experience a freedom from unforgiveness and offenses that will bring you an inner joy and peace that you may have never experienced before in your life.

Here are some of my favourite quotes from this book:

“The issue of offense… is often the most difficult obstacle an individual must face and overcome.”

“Offended people produce much fruit, such as hurt, anger, outrage, jealousy, resentment, strife, bitterness, hatred and envy. Some of the consequences of picking up an offense are insults, attacks, wounding, division, separation, broken relationships, betrayal, and backsliding.”

“Before the return of Christ, however, true believers will be united unlike anything in the past. I believe that today countless men and women will be release from this trap of offense. This will be one of the main links in seeing revival sweep this nation.”

“Offense is one of the enemy’s most deadly and deceptive traps. It imprisons countless Christians, severs relationships, and widens the existing breaches between us.”

“The closer the relationship, the more severe the offense! You find the greatest hatred among people who were once close… Only those you care about can hurt you. You expect more from them… The higher the expectations, the greater the fall.”

“If I have expectations about certain persons, those people can let me down. They will disappoint me to the degree that they fall short of my expectations. But if I have no expectations about someone, anything given is a blessing and not something owed.”

“An offended brother or sister is harder to win than a fortified city… We construct walls when we are hurt to safeguard our hearts and prevent any future wounds.”

“If you stay free from offense you will stay in God’s will. If you become offended you will be taken captive by the enemy to fulfill his own purpose and will.”

“Today men and women leave churches so readily if they see something wrong in the leadership… Rather than face the difficulties and maintain hope, they run to where there appears to be no conflict… Let’s face it: Jesus is the only perfect pastor.”

“In the midst of a very trying circumstance in a church, one day the Lord spoke to me through a Scripture verse and said, “This is the way I want you to leave a church”: “For you shall go out with joy, and be led out with peace.” (Isaiah 55:12). Most do not leave this way. They think churches are like cafeterias; they can pick and choose what they like! They feel the freedom to stay as long as there are no problems. But this does not agree with what the Bible teaches. You are not the one who chooses where you go to church: God does! (see 1 Cor. 12:18). Remember that, if you’re in the place where God wants you, the devil will try to offend you to get you out. He wants to uproot men and women from the place where God plants them.”

“Psalm 92:13: “Those who are planted in the house of the Lord shall flourish in the courts of our God.” Notice that those who flourish are “planted” in the house of the Lord. What happens to a plant if you transplant it every three weeks? Most of you know that its root system will diminish, and it will not blossom or prosper. If you keep transplanting it, the plant will die of shock!”

“Once you leave the place God has chosen for you, your root system begins to dwarf. The next time it will be easier for you to flee from adversity because you have been careful not to root yourself too deeply. You end up coming to the place where you have little or not strength to endure hardship or persecution. You then become a spiritual vagabond, wandering from place to place, suspicious and afraid that others will mistreat you.”

“God never created us to live separately and independently of each other. He likes is when His children care for and nurture each other. He is frustrated when we sulk and feel sorry for ourselves, making everyone else responsible for our happiness.”

“The consequences of refusing to let go of offense and how to get free from it… I wonder how many Christians would want God to forgive them in the same way they have forgiven those who have offended them. Yet this is exactly the way in which they will be forgiven. (see Matt. 6:14-15).”

“A person who cannot forgive has forgotten the great debt for which they were forgiven. When you realized that Jesus delivered you from eternal death and torment, you will release others unconditionally.”

“Jesus said: Moreover if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother. (Matt. 18:15)… The whole reason Jesus instructed us to go to one another is not for condemnation but for reconciliation. He does not want us to tell our brother how rotten he has been to us. We are to go to remove the breach preventing the restoration of our relationship.”

“The love of God is the key to freedom from the baited trap of offense. This must be an abounding love, a love that continually grows and is strengthened in our hearts.”

Note – to order a copy of this book, or the study guide or DVD curriculum that goes along with it, visit


About Chris Jordan

Husband. Father. Author. Pastor. High School Bible Teacher. Follower of Jesus. And I enjoy a good cup of coffee!
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4 Responses to The Most Important Book on Relationships You Will EVER Read

  1. I agree, Chris. Several years back our leadership team all read this book, discussed it, and made some decisions about the kind of Believers we were going to be. Several relationships were dramatically healed and we are now operating at a level of unity that is quite exciting. I’m not saying it ALL happened as a result of this one book, but the book was a powerful part of the process.

    • Chris Jordan says:

      Thanks for the feedback. One of the reasons I think John Bevere’s book is so powerful is because it’s based on THE Book – the Bible, and God’s Word has the power to change and transform lives and relationships. God bless you as you serve Him!

  2. Mel Wild says:

    Great book. Especially, for healing relationships that often cause church splits.

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