CONNECT: THE IMPORTANCE OF FACE TO FACE FRIENDSHIPS
(Jan. 2016 – Pastor Chris Jordan – Beausejour Church)
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OPENING VIDEO: Disconnect to Connect
INTRO TO TOPIC: We are living in a social networking generation.
- How many of you are on Facebook? Instagram? Snapchat? Twitter? Pinterest?
- As of Jan. 2014, 74% of online adults use social networking sites. (pewinternet.org).
- New depression today – no new friends to want to be friends with on Facebook.
- People start living in a fantasy world thinking that if they have 200 friends on Facebook they are loved. That’s a lie! When you’re sick, they won’t come visit you!
- We can never allow Facebook to become a substitute for Face to Face Friendships.
- People aren’t just looking for friendly churches; they’re coming to churches looking for friends. Everybody wants to be CONNECTED!
- In the world today, we are used to throwing away things that are broken – even friendships. On Facebook, if a friend does something you don’t like, you can just unfriend them. We must learn to become good at repairing relationships.
- Don’t love people like cows: “If you give me milk, I will love you. If you don’t, I will butcher you!” That’s okay for cows, but not people!
“So the Lord spoke to Moses face to face, as a man speaks to his friend.” (Exodus 33:11).
- God didn’t sent Moses a tweet on twitter, or a friend request on Facebook!
THE BIG IDEA: One of the most important and basic components of connecting in healthy, intimate relationships is speaking face to face.
QUOTE: “Although uncommonly rich in material goods, we in the western world often suffer from poverty in the area of quality relationships. Hectic schedules, broken families, social pressure and frequent mobility rob us of many of the inner richest God intends for His people. If social science researchers are correct, the downward spiral of unhealthy, indifferent and unhealthy relationships is nearing a crisis point in our society.” (Dr. Gary Sweeten, Listening for Heaven’s Sake).
- OUR VISION: Loving God and Loving People!
“Then one of them asked Him a question, testing Him, and saying, “Teacher, which is the great commandment in the law?” Jesus said to him, “‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like it: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ On these two commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets.” (Matt. 22:35-40).
- OUR MISSION STATEMENT:
- “We exist to REACH people with the love of God – Evangelism
- to CONNECT them in loving relationships with other Christians – Fellowship
- to help them to GROW in their faith through God’s Word – Discipleship
- to challenge them to DISCOVER their gifts – Ministry
- and to GLORIFY God with their lives.” – Worship
1. LOVING GOD:
“We love Him because He first loved us.” (1 John 4:19).
- We can’t love God until we know and believe the love that He has for us, first.
- “In this the love of God was manifested toward us, that God has sent His only begotten Son into the world, that we might live through Him. In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins.” (1 John 4:9-10).
- Meditate on the love of God revealed to us in the Cross!
- When we know that God loves us, we will have boldness to approach Him face to face.
- If you want to be a better friend (more loving), work on your relationship with Jesus.
- This is our highest calling as Christians, to love God and be loved by Him.
2. LOVING OURSELVES:
- Jesus said, “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.”
- You can’t love others if you don’t love yourself, first!
- We can love ourselves when we know we are created in God’s image and loved by Him.
3. LOVING OTHER PEOPLE:
“We know what real love is because Christ gave up his life for us. And so we also ought to give up our lives for our Christian brothers and sisters. But if anyone has enough money to live well and sees a brother or sister in need and refuses to help — how can God’s love be in that person? Dear children, let us stop just saying we love each other; let us really show it by our actions.” (1 John 3:16-18).
- QUOTES: from “Love, Acceptance and Forgiveness” by Jerry Cook:
- “We began to understand that the church was people – real people – changed by the power of Christ, filled with the spirit of Christ, touching the hurting, dying and cynical modern man with the life of Jesus Himself.”
- “When love, acceptance and forgiveness prevail, the church becomes what Jesus was in the world: a center of love, designed for the healing of broken people, and a force for God.”
- Quote John 13:34-35: “A new commandment I give you, that you love one another, as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”
- Jesus also said, “Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends.” (John 15:13).
- This is the sign of a true disciple of Jesus! We need to learn to love like this! PREACH!
THREE KEYS TO LOVING RELATIONSHIPS:
- “A friend loves at all times, And a brother is born for adversity.” (Prov. 17:17).
- Love at all times – even when your friend isn’t being very loving or friendly.
- “A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need.” (Prov. 17:17, NLT).
- Help your friends when they’re going through difficult times.
- “A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” (Prov. 18:24).
- Be friendly! Take time to work on developing your relationships. Disconnect!
Calvin & Hobbes (c) 2016 Bill Waterson.
“Two are better than one, Because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, For he has no one to help him up…Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him. And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12).
- Pray for God to help us disconnect from social media and connect more face to face!
- It’s time to stand up and connect with one another in deep and meaningful relationships.
- It’s time to get involved in one another’s lives enough so we can help each other.
- It’s time to stop being so selfish and start loving, serving and giving to others!
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